Preparing to Leave the Relationship

Below is some general advice which you could tailor to your individual circumstances. Nothing will replace the advice of a Solicitor if required.

When considering any of the advice below please ensure your safety and consider each action before undertaking it, do not put yourself at further risk. A friend or family member may be able to help you.

Please contact us for more help and advice.

Have keys for doors and windows ready. Plan how you will get out of any room in your home. Put things such as car keys, money etc in a safe place or even with a trusted person so you can get to them quickly.

You could a friend or a trustee neighbour know that if they hear or see anything suspicious they should contact the police.

If you have children, talk to them about when it is appropriate for them to call for help without putting themselves in danger. You could show them how to call 999 from their phone. You could teach them and friends a code word that you say that tells them to call for help.

Plan where to go once you have left your home.

Pack essentials like:

• Money, clothes, house and car keys.
• Any important documents (photocopies if you cannot get the originals) like passports, birth certificate(s), mortgage documents etc.
• Do not forget things like work ID and your driving licence.
• Credit and debit cards and bank details.
• Medications and documents relating to any children.
• Keep the stuff somewhere hidden or leave if with a friend or relative.